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I struggle off an on with lonleness and emptiness as well. I agree with you..I don’t think getting more friends or any friends will necessarily cure that loneliness/emptiness..at least it hasn’t with me. I like what you had to say about not trying to get rid of the feeling…Thats the first thing I want to do. Im finding acceptance and distraction are helping me to deal with loneliness and emptiness. I still think it’s interesting that I can feel so lonely even when I’m surrounded by so many
Things related to ontology are a bit of a taboo with the few people I connect with these days, it’s like some people are defensive of their indifference to the unknown :-/ a bit oxymoronical if you ask me.
from my own experience the CURE to s.a.d. is being comfortable with ourselves… once we’re able to be highly self-confident and comfortable about how we look inside and out then we all are able to go out and experience life. the truth of the matter is…. we highly dislike how we LOOK!!! which restrict us from going out and meeting new people. *look in the mirror and ask yourself… “what do i dislike about the way i look?” then set a goal on how to fix it and stick with it. REPLY…………..
Paul, your statements about how you feel about parties are exactly in-line with my thoughts. I know this isn’t much of a comment, but I just thought I would put in my two cents and let you know that you definitely aren’t alone. I don’t understand it either, bro. Take it easy.
I think , you’re right about some people at parties being scavengers for another memorable experience. But it’s an uplifting experience, life sometimes asks of us to get involved in irksome events. We’re just another portion of segment passing thru time. Eventually, all adding up to history. How can you expect to have the human touch without a sense of regard to connecting, sharing, and discovering others. The eyes share a different world. The voice paints a different soul.
I could give you some tips. #1 Positive Thinking before any social event. #2 Everybody experiences social anxiety sometimes. #3 No one has ever died from this. #4 There is no fear but fear itself. #5 Confronting your fears will reduce your anxiety, Its like when people drive a car for their first time they are very nevouse but the more they doit the less anxiety they get next time. #6 Exercise will reduce all types of anxiety. #7 Avoid pills such as zoloft which psychologist recommend. GL
I’ve had social anxiety all my life. You talked about being interested in philosophy. I constantly have thoughts about the meaning of life and death. I wonder if these kind of thoughts are common among people with social phobia? Are we too obsessed with the meaning of life that we just can’t let go and enjoy it? Like you said about partying, the things that most people enjoy just seem so mundane and meaningless to me. Sorry if my ranting doesn’t make any sense.
#1 by SicilianThunderbolt on July 18th, 2009
Me too, but a connection with real people like you guys.
#2 by PaulM7224 on July 19th, 2009
Glad you liked it
#3 by PaulM7224 on July 19th, 2009
Thanks!
#4 by ItsLiv on July 19th, 2009
thank you, thank you, thank you. your words are fantastic and very therapeutic.
#5 by BluesyMagus on July 19th, 2009
Very insightful video! Best video I have seen in a long time
Who are you reading?
#6 by 12showandtell on July 19th, 2009
I struggle off an on with lonleness and emptiness as well. I agree with you..I don’t think getting more friends or any friends will necessarily cure that loneliness/emptiness..at least it hasn’t with me. I like what you had to say about not trying to get rid of the feeling…Thats the first thing I want to do. Im finding acceptance and distraction are helping me to deal with loneliness and emptiness. I still think it’s interesting that I can feel so lonely even when I’m surrounded by so many
#7 by PaulM7224 on July 20th, 2009
Wow! I thought this was one of my more boring videos too. Glad I could help
#8 by PaulM7224 on July 20th, 2009
Thanks. Right now I’m reading The Myth of Sisyphus by Albert Camus.
#9 by PaulM7224 on July 20th, 2009
If I’m feeling lonely I’d rather be alone. Being with other people while your lonely seems to augment your feelings. At least for me anyway.
#10 by HenhousetheRed on July 21st, 2009
It’s true that the party scene today is a huge trap. It’s just a joke.
#11 by NARIEKODWOD on July 26th, 2009
Great video, I agree with your views in this video. good job:)
#12 by absolutealbatross on July 29th, 2009
Things related to ontology are a bit of a taboo with the few people I connect with these days, it’s like some people are defensive of their indifference to the unknown :-/ a bit oxymoronical if you ask me.
#13 by TheScreamingRetard on August 3rd, 2009
i just realized that my real personality is being blocked by my social anxiety can anyone help
#14 by mctapout187 on August 9th, 2009
from my own experience the CURE to s.a.d. is being comfortable with ourselves… once we’re able to be highly self-confident and comfortable about how we look inside and out then we all are able to go out and experience life. the truth of the matter is…. we highly dislike how we LOOK!!! which restrict us from going out and meeting new people. *look in the mirror and ask yourself… “what do i dislike about the way i look?” then set a goal on how to fix it and stick with it. REPLY…………..
#15 by Chubzdoomer on August 27th, 2009
Paul, your statements about how you feel about parties are exactly in-line with my thoughts. I know this isn’t much of a comment, but I just thought I would put in my two cents and let you know that you definitely aren’t alone. I don’t understand it either, bro. Take it easy.
#16 by movingzachb on October 5th, 2009
being comfortable helps but there is not cure
#17 by thedrunkpianist on October 7th, 2009
I think , you’re right about some people at parties being scavengers for another memorable experience. But it’s an uplifting experience, life sometimes asks of us to get involved in irksome events. We’re just another portion of segment passing thru time. Eventually, all adding up to history. How can you expect to have the human touch without a sense of regard to connecting, sharing, and discovering others. The eyes share a different world. The voice paints a different soul.
#18 by thedrunkpianist on October 7th, 2009
sometimes i feel like breaking the mirror so i wouldn’t have to be worrying about how i look in the first place.
#19 by qfruit on October 7th, 2009
You’re so right about recognizing the feeling. It’s important to learn to be okay with being by yourself because you’ll just feel worse around people.
#20 by grapisavillain on October 7th, 2009
Often it’s the most lonely people that are the most profound and interesting and have a lot to offer. Still waters run deep.
#21 by lilkk234 on October 9th, 2009
Your voice is so soothing.
#22 by xrayers on October 12th, 2009
I could give you some tips. #1 Positive Thinking before any social event. #2 Everybody experiences social anxiety sometimes. #3 No one has ever died from this. #4 There is no fear but fear itself. #5 Confronting your fears will reduce your anxiety, Its like when people drive a car for their first time they are very nevouse but the more they doit the less anxiety they get next time. #6 Exercise will reduce all types of anxiety. #7 Avoid pills such as zoloft which psychologist recommend. GL
#23 by jbjb9402 on October 17th, 2009
I’ve had social anxiety all my life. You talked about being interested in philosophy. I constantly have thoughts about the meaning of life and death. I wonder if these kind of thoughts are common among people with social phobia? Are we too obsessed with the meaning of life that we just can’t let go and enjoy it? Like you said about partying, the things that most people enjoy just seem so mundane and meaningless to me. Sorry if my ranting doesn’t make any sense.
#24 by terran97 on October 27th, 2009
valid observation
#25 by RominCool on October 28th, 2009
I am in so much problem