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Possible Causes for Social Anxiety


This debilitating disorder has its source largely in trauma, sustained early in life. Critical, judgemental upbringings along with repetitive violent communication tend to traumatize people leaving their nervous systems overly sensitive. The person becomes hypervigilent and overly attuned to the outside voices. Their self esteem suffers and an inferiority complex may ensue. While understanding the sources of social anxiety is important, the reality is that the patterns and the neural …

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  1. #1 by dancesonpoles on April 13th, 2009

    This was wonderful! Thank you so much

  2. #2 by KnightQuickness72 on April 16th, 2009

    I used too be the most social person in the world. I don’t know what happened too me. I’m only 14 now :( and i go to school which is really hard.

  3. #3 by aminamaq on April 17th, 2009

    you are very right when you mensioned that we as social phobic care only about what other people judgment and opinions more than what we think of our selves because its all negative in our minds i wish i can wake up the next day and its all positive. i am waiting for the magic pill

  4. #4 by Luv4Learning on April 17th, 2009

    I think you have described me to a tee. I have been anxious since I was little, but my social anxiety worsened after being exposed as a young teen to bullying, teasing, backstabbing, etc.

    Today, I do often feel like I am walking around with a nervous system that is very raw and alert. I have become good at hiding it, but it’s there. It’s a constant battle for me on the inside, but I’m doing my part to improve.

    I will post this video on my previewer for my subscribers :) .

  5. #5 by askvictoria on April 17th, 2009

    Thanks! Glad this is helpful for you. More Videos coming. Keep up your great work with yourself.
    Warmly, Victoria

    Victoria Lorient-Faibish MEd, CCC, RPP, RPE
    Holistic Psychotherapist
    Masters in Educational Psychology
    Canadian Certified Counsellor
    Registered Polarity Practitioner and Educator

  6. #6 by beenthereaswell on April 28th, 2009

    Another commenter from another SA video used this analogy which I thought fit well, ‘…saying you have anxiety in certain situations so you know what it’s like to have SA, is like saying you swam in a lake once so you know what it’s like to be thrown overboard in the middle of the ocean.’

  7. #7 by ElmerDaGreat on May 5th, 2009

    thanks for posting it helped me

  8. #8 by Pogokhet on May 17th, 2009

    I never thought that a video of such length could sum up my current state of being so accurately. Word for word too. Especially with the parents part.

    I experienced severe social rejection in early childhood because of my Jewishness (my parents aren’t the least bit religious) and got into a downward spiral of worry and anxiety about social interaction, reaching a critical point when my parents split when I was 11 (my mother became neglectful and bitter toward me after the separation) – cont

  9. #9 by Pogokhet on May 17th, 2009

    I’m still stuck living with her, but I feel in a few months I’ll have enough confidence and a better skill set to move out and take on the world. Thanks for this helpful and informative post. Your doing a good job here. :)

  10. #10 by pmannion02 on May 20th, 2009

    Excellent ! very clear, to the point and very helpful

  11. #11 by Trying2HelpUs on May 21st, 2009

    Nice video. I wish you were my therapist Victoria. I suffer from alot of behavioral problems, like Social Phobia. I cant seem to get any help for it and I grow anxious and tired each day.

  12. #12 by tski007 on May 21st, 2009

    wow great video i wish your office was near where i live so i can make appointment to talk to you i have anxiety i learn that this condition is negative bad habit and we need to practice how to reverse so we learn new nonancious behavier

  13. #13 by ctycolour on May 28th, 2009

    thanks so much for posting victoria. You seem to really understand Social Anxiety, everything you said is spot on especially the early childhood trauma stuff because ive had alot of pressure and judgement from family members and i think thats the rout of my problem.

    keep it up.

  14. #14 by happilylil on May 31st, 2009

    Vilift is really great, it’s really the best pill i’ve ever tried, really effective.

  15. #15 by Revolt714 on June 22nd, 2009

    Wow, thank you for making this video. This really made me think about what i’m really going through. thanks a lot

  16. #16 by Revolt714 on June 22nd, 2009

    Just wondering, does any out there have panic disorder as well? Like when you’re around people you start breaking down in sweat and your heart starts racing. message me back. pc

  17. #17 by jlynn1455 on July 4th, 2009

    i totally agree with you.i was raised in a very unloving inviroment. i’ve always been sinsitive to negative input. i’m 54 yrs old and social anxity is all i’ve ever known.
    i want help but it’s hard to find someone that understands this disorder. i don’t have many choices sinse i’m disabled and on medecaid. what can i do?

  18. #18 by BigMikeflyDR on July 6th, 2009

    Yes all the time , everyday almost but I have been taking clonopin and it helps with panic attacks.

  19. #19 by snugglyaquarius79 on July 6th, 2009

    This video nailed me to the bone! Thank you for putting it up. I don’t feel so silly anymore.

  20. #20 by CleverDjembe on July 7th, 2009

    Yeah, this video nailed me too, and it felt soooooo good!

  21. #21 by Lilcutegrl93 on July 12th, 2009

    The thing that sucks with social anxiety as a teen is you feel alone at school, sometimes even with your friends.

    It’s a hard thing to explain. I’ve come a long way since I was little, but I never realized how serious it could be until I became a teenager. I always chose to only hang out with certain friends I was comfortable with and didn’t really talk to other friends at school, and I’ve carried that habbit with me.

    I’m trying to break my bad habits, but I still feel…idk, regretful?

  22. #22 by xm3lissa89x on July 13th, 2009

    does anyone else have a fear of working?

  23. #23 by happ2beme on July 13th, 2009

    Yup, That’s my biggest anxiety.

  24. #24 by xm3lissa89x on July 13th, 2009

    mine too.

  25. #25 by squelchieblue on July 18th, 2009

    yes..
    i have this constant fear of making a fool of myself… i don’t think i could handle the social setting and the expectations…. and making a mistake.
    I know that sounds stupid.. but the fear is very real and overwhelming.

    i wish i had confidence…it eludes me how people can be so confident with themselves.. it’s so unnatural to me

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